What We Want

So many of us wait for that something to come along that is going to make us happy. For some, it's seems to be money. With more money, one can buy all those things one wants. Most of us see the error in that. We see an appetite that will never be satisfied. We want, instead, that which money will not buy.

We want that special someone. The only problem is that someone seems nearly impossible to find. Is it that our standards are too high? Is it that we were born a century too early or too late? Is it that the World has become such a broken mess that no one could possibly find something whole and unbroken in it anymore?

If we are truthful with ourselves, we know what we want. We want companionship. In a life of smiling faces, you want not to be wearing the same as a mask to keep that miserable feeling of loneliness from public display. We want the PERFECT person. The person that comes with the same dreams and ambitions that match our own. The person who is going to love us in just the way we need to be loved, and is going to say and do all the things we want them to, and be everything we need them to be. We know deep down that such a thing as the perfect person doesn't exist. In moments of self-honesty we see that such a dream is fantasy. Why then do we still want it so bad?

I submit there are two problems that are capital in this dire situation. One is a simple observation that I believe many overlook and herein the other lies a new view of reality that many people do not see; even there are those who think they do, I believe they do not.

We must understand, things change, people change. Mitigating circumstances always dictate realities. Doing this takes self-confidence and faith in relations. Many people uproot their lives to pursue that special relationship with someone they may well have never imagined themselves being with. Love can change people quite profoundly. It can alter their taste in music, movies, social environments, foods, locales, and all sorts of Life's various facets. We must have faith without exception. We must have an ounce of confidence in the Law of Change. Many people lack that and it causes them constant longing. That longing is suffering. Waiting for the perfect someone that's all packaged and ready to go. Just add water. Except they never come.

Granted there are people, that for whatever reason, that do not dance to the same secret music as you. We must see that for what it is quickly, so as to not be pulled in by that darkness and become subject and enslaved by it. We must learn to bid a loving farewell and continue on to seek out one with the proper moves. It is neither our duty nor our right to try and change someone. The one true power of our existence to command with impunity is the power to give and receive love. The most powerful force in the Universe is that of Directed Will and there is no greater power of Directed Will than that of Unconditional Love.

And so it is, we find ourselves back at square one. Alone and searching for one with the proper steps. One that can hear Love's beautiful waltz. One that wants to join in the dance. And of course, we find ourselves longing. Wanting to have somebody, wanting to have love.

Now at this point, consider my second submission. Consider there is a fundamental perspective that most people simply do not realize, but yet remains the simplest realization of all. I cannot have anyone! I cannot have love! People and love are not possessions. One might think that such a statement to be too obvious. Why bother to mention it? But if it's so obvious, then why do people continually take such attitude with relationships? Obviously, there's no big secret to any of this, but yet it remains cryptic to those who have forsaken the intuition to read Reality's hieroglyphics. How many times have we said that we want to have a relationship? How many times do we use the words of demand and possession in such thoughts? It is quite significant. It is not a figure of speech. What we speak is a song and that song sings the fundamental paradigm in which we view the world. If we consider what we've been asking for, we may well discover it is something that we cannot have. Because it does not work like that. Because it does not exist. We need to change our fundamental view of the world from a possession-based viewpoint into a new paradigm that sees things as they really exist. We need to speak words that sing the proper song.

So the question emerges, if we can't have that special someone, how can we have one? Or rather, how can we be in existence with that someone? It's hard to start thinking outside of a possession-based viewpoint and properly word it. That is why in a fundamental change in our view of the world it is required for us to take the time to reflect and contemplate on this new paradigm. It cannot just happen. We must choose the path, and then take up the task of treading upon it.

In this economic and material based world, we are not used to thinking in terms of things we can't HAVE ... a solution to our unhappiness that we cannot run out and purchase. There is no instant gratification. If there is, we will no doubt learn the hard way of the significant warning sign it poses. The deception that lies within.

Just as we have to do the work to earn a paycheck, so must we do the work in Life's trials and tribulations. The answer to Life's problems is not something that is going to pop up for sale on eBay. Therefore, it is to be said, that self-realization will always carry in tow the paramount prerequisite of self-reflection.

Most of the world focuses on having what they want, which is a constant state of acquisition, of needing to augment with more, of rampant consumerism that ultimately ends in devaluation of anything that is not imminently disposable. If we find satisfaction in what we are, where we are, and who we are right now, that is peace of mind that is not illusive, transitory or subject to entropy. Wanting what we have is the ultimate expression of living in the moment. The goal is to be here now, not to dwell on how much better my life could be if only…